On another, much less awesome, note: my mother has already started with her momzilla tendencies. We've already fought over who will be invited (mind you at the time, I'd been engaged a whole 6 days), who will in my bridal party, how to dress them, and how they might walk in. To all of these, I simply told her "no mom, it's my wedding, I can do what I want." 

Well now she's using my wedding as an excuse to not volunteer at her church. He says that will our wedding coming up that she won't have time. I guess she plans on having a ton of time to irritate me to no end. 

But I can guarantee, she will have hand in planning this wedding. I have waited my entire life to plan my wedding. I'm going to have the wedding I want, not the one she wants.